Sunday, May 12
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For a long time, I have been battling ants in our house. No matter how well the counters were wiped or the floor was swept, I would wake up with ants all over my kitchen. And they have spread to the kids' bathroom and the living room. Finally, I have had enough!
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I do not know what it is about Madison, but poor girl just keeps catching every single bug out there.
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Friends of ours went to Disneyworld for the week, so we were able to watch their dog, Bella.
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Saturday, May 4
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Monday, April 29
Life has been very busy for the last two weeks. Firstly, Terry has been gone. That always makes life a bit more hectic. Add that I have been really involved in the school, as in almost every day, and have also begun volunteering at church again. So life is good, but busy.
Saturday, I had an incident with my neighbor. Left me very angry. It began with an encounter at the park. The kids were feeding the ducks and he joined us with his daughter. Small talk ensued. Plans for the weekend, he said he was going to visit people that afternoon. Then he asked how my eyes were since the LASIK. I replied that they were really great. Then he followed that up with, what are you getting done next, a boob job? I was seriously rendered speechless. I did not have an immediate reply other than no. Now, this man has made plenty of inappropriate comments to me before such as, "I really like women." And "You look good, you keep very fit.", etc. I get the super creepy vibe from him. I have told Terry as much and he agrees that I should just steer clear. So when Terry is around, it is him who deals with "D". But remember, Terry is not here. And did I mention that he is in his mid-50's at least?
So I gathered the kids to walk the dog and he tells his daughter to join us. Now, this is also a problem that I have with my neighbor. He will send his daughter to my house and then take off and leave without informing me. There has been at least two incidents where Terry and I needed to leave and he was MIA. The first time, although inconvenient, we took his daughter with us. The second, we left her with a neighbor who also had no idea where he was. It angers me that he thinks that he can just send his daughter to my house and disappear like I am some free baby-sitting service. Now just to add a caveat, we adore his daughter. She is wonderful and my kids love her so we do like her coming over to play. However, I get very resentful when I feel used so it is a catch 22 for me.
So, back to Saturday. After the walk, we dropped the daughter at her house. We went home. She was sent over an hour or so later to play about 1pm. She stayed at my house until after 8pm. Several times I looked out to make sure that he was home and sure enough, for several hours he was not. Made me so stinking hot mad. So when the teenage son came over after 8 to see when daughter would be coming home, I told him that they were watching a movie and it would be done in an hour or so, but to tell his father that I did not like him leaving without telling me. Now, yes, I know I should have been the grown up and called him myself instead of sending the teenager but I really didn't think it would have any impact anyway.
[Side note, last February while I was at the bachelorette party, neighbor's daughter called me to play with my kids. I said that I was not there but she could ask the baby sitter if she could play. I was unsure as to whether it would be my brother in law, which then it would probably have been fine, or if it was my niece which would not have been acceptable. Well, he went over dropped his daughter with my niece, did not ask anything, said if you need me call me, did not leave a number, and took off. When Terry came home, he immediately called neighbor to come get his daughter and told him that his behavior was absolutely unacceptable and said that I do not like it when he leaves his daughter with me and then leaves his house either. He claimed we were not the people he thought we were and that we were implying he was a bad parent, etc. We have not seen his little girl since-nearly three months.]
I was wrong, he called straightaway and asked what was the meaning of my message. I told him that I did not appreciate him leaving his daughter at my house and then leaving his house. He said he never left and that there was a car in the driveway the entire time. I told him that was incorrect and that the car he drove was gone for several hours. (Remember earlier he said he was going to visit people that afternoon?) He insisted there was a car in the driveway. I said he cannot drive two cars at once and therefore I did not appreciate him leaving while I had his daughter. Then he began with I am accusing him of being a bad parent and very disrespectful to him. I countered with he was extremely disrespectful to me to leave his daughter without consulting me for the entire day. He claimed it was not all day. I said it was from 1-8pm and was therefore most of the day. Then, he said he teenage son (13) was home and that sufficed. I said it did not suffice-if there were an emergency a 13 year old is not able to make decisions for the daughter. I said that he needed to inform me if he was to leave. He then says that he does not need a baby sitter at all. I told him that that was exactly what I did all day while he was gone-was baby-sitting his daughter. At this point, we are yelling at each other. It was bad. I was shaking I was so mad. He then told me to send his daughter home right away and I said that I would not send his daughter home to walk in the dark and that he could come collect her. He then did just that and said not a word to me.
He called me later that night but I refused to answer. He said that although we disagreed, it was no reason to prevent the kids from playing together. I did not respond. He then texted the next day saying that we had a communication problem and that the kids friendship should continue and I could send my kids to play over there for the entire afternoon. I replied that I too, wanted the kids to be friends but that I need some time to process what has happened.
I have come to two conclusions. First, my kids will not be going to play at his house. They really have only done it once or twice-they normally play at my house. They will definitely not be going to play at his house again. Secondly, I plan to have a conversation with him where first: I explain that what he said about the boob job was completely inappropriate and unacceptable, and second: I think that the daughter will be able to play at my house only if he is home. I am tired of being used for hours at a time.
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